Last week, I read a blog that was discussing how dads should stop getting praised for doing what they’re “supposed” to do and simply being in their kids’ lives. Hmm… I’m not sure how I feel about that one.
(Kanye moment) Before I dive in with my view on this topic, I think parents have one of the hardest jobs on this planet. Raising a kid with a partner is tough and an everyday battle but special kudos to the ones that are doing a phenomenal job as a single parent. Your perseverance is amazing.
Back to the topic
I don’t really understand the sentiment that it’s pointless to thank or show any form of praise to a dad/mom for doing what they’re supposed to do. I absolutely disagree. I’m a rookie at this parenting thing and still searching for the right manual on how to successfully juggle being a dad and career man. After a long week, I struggle to wake up early on Saturday mornings and plan and eventful day but to see the joy it brings to my kid is priceless. For some, coming home means to unwind, relax and forget the day. For myself as well other parents I know, coming home means clocking back into the job that you physically left this morning. Daddy is the hero that helps moms stay sane. Putting the laptop down just to put on your cape is a daily gift that we have to perfect and that road is far from easy.
Let’s dig a little deeper. It’s one thing to physically be with your kid and it’s another to actually be there. In no way, shape or form am I trying to give anyone parental advice with this one but this is what I’m continuously struggling with. There have been numerous times when I’ve received an email or phone call from work so by nature, I want to handle a task immediately rather than have it linger in my conscious knowing that I have to get things done. IT CAN WAIT. Kids can tell the difference if you’re mentally checked out but even if they can’t, you’re not doing them any favors. I’ve seen my daughter light up like a Christmas tree as soon as I put away everything work related. I now make it my rule to not check my phone during our time together and no matter how hard it’s been so far, our relationship has gotten stronger.
When someone compliments me at the park for running miles with my kid or have a conversation about the do’s and don’ts during a social interaction, I feel so proud of myself and I’m more motivated to be better. Personally, I had a severely hard time adjusting to my new role as a dad. Positive recognition only lets me know that I’m on the right path.
Here’s the gist
Don’t you want that promotion, raise or recognition from your colleagues at your 9-5? Yes? Well ….parenting is 24/7 so please continuously tell me how awesome I am. It goes a long way during a 10 hour day after a 2-hour sleep. Thanks!
I’d like to take the time to thank coffee because, without you, I’d probably be a zombie by now.
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